As you know, it’s difficult trying to juggle all of your roles–mother, professional and woman. I’m extremely grateful for my friends. These are the women who give me good counsel, let me vent when I’m stressed out and who set me straight when I’m acting crazy. These are my go-to gals. I turn to them for career advice, for info about raising my son and to learn where to find designer clothes on sale. You may be saying that you don’t have 6 girlfriends…that’s totally alright. The right friend can serve multiple functions.
1) The Mom Peer. She’s a working mom like you and ideally she has children close in age to your own. This friend is in the same boat as you and will immediately understand what’s going on in your life–whether the issue is personal, professional or kid-related. Moreover, she may have information and resources that can help your work-life balancing act.
2) The Child-less Friend. This friend allows you to take off your “mom” hat and talk about something other than your children. With her you can go to a nice restaurant or even the hot new bar. Hanging out with her gives you the chance to put your “woman” interests and concerns front and center. The added plus is that the child-less friend usually has a more flexible schedule than your “mom friends” since she doesn’t have to negotiate babysitters and school schedules to meet-up.
3. The Career Specialist. This friend can help you to solve problems and map out strategies as they relate to your professional life. She (or he) may be a well respected executive, a successful entrepreneur or a social maven who has far reaching connections. This friend can help you to avoid career pitfalls as you move up the ladder or establish your own business.
4. The “Through Thick and Thin” Friend. This is the friend who’s most likely to come to your rescue. She’ll help you paint your livingroom, she’s pick-up your kids from school if you’re delayed at work or she’ll prepare meals for your family when a crisis hits. This friend is steadfast and loyal yet rarely ask for anything in return.
5) The Fashionable Mom. She’s an inspiration. She helps you to remember that being a busy working mom is not an excuse to be a frump. Despite her work and family obligations she’s always put together (make-up, styled hair and an attractive outfit), she gets to the gym regularly and is a hands-on mother. Even if she’s a tough act to follow, she’s always good for a few pointers.
6) The Candid Friend. This is the friend who’s going to give you the truth, straight with no chaser. She’s not a mean critic who’s trying to belittle you. Instead she is a trusted friend, whether old or new, who cares enough about you and your well being to tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear.
Remember friendship is a 2-way street. You can’t expect people to give of themselves, their time or their resources if you aren’t willing to do the same. Friendship is a privilege undertaken freely, not an obligation forced upon someone.
Where are places where you have found valued friends?
