I have heard from too many working mothers who say that they are “too tired to have sex,” or “they don’t want the responsibility to have to be sexy.” If you view sex as another chore, something you’re doing for him, you should seriously examine the quality of your relationship. Although sex is not the only way that partners can or should communicate, it is an important one. So if you’re not motivated to get between the sheets with your partner, you should think about what issues are helping to dampen your mojo.
Sex should be a regular and fun part of your life. Sexuality activity is good for your overall physical health. It can even help reduce stress. So if you need a little shove, I’ve provided some advice directly from Dr. Laura Berman’s Passion Files daily newsletter.
Some of you may know Dr. Berman from her appearances on Oprah. Laura Berman, LCSW, Ph.D., an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and obstetrics/gynecology at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University, has been working as a sex educator and therapist for 20 years and is considered a thought leader in her field.
Planning Sex by Dr. Laura Berman
These days, the reality is that life’s responsibilities can sometimes overpower what was once a top priority. Couples are busier than ever with housework, children, and their careers. It’s important to make sure sex doesn’t get lost in the shuffle. shuffle.
Planning to have sex can be downright fun if you go about it the right way. Get out the calendar with your spouse and pick a day that works. (Usually, the fewer demands that are upon you that day the better, so don’t pick an already-packed day!) You’ve given yourselves something to look forward to — and some time to plan for an amazing experience.
When the day of your sex date arrives, revel in the anticipation — it feels a little like when you were first dating, doesn’t it? Give him an extra-passionate kiss in the morning as a preview of coming attractions. Or, send him a racy e-mail at work in the middle of the day to tell him how excited you’re getting. By the time dinner rolls around, you’ll be bribing the kids to go to bed early.
Planning sex should be a regular on every busy couple’s to-do list. After all, your extracurricular life is just as important as your children’s. Make intimacy with your partner a priority, and you’ll ensure that your passion for each other doesn’t fall through the cracks.
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