Can having a better sex life improve your business? The answer is probably yes. Marie Forleo, author and creator of Rich, Happy and Hot mentoring program for women believes that your business may suffer from your lack of sex. In an article titled, “Is Your Sex Life Affecting The Success of Your Business?” Marie says, ” A healthy sex life is essential to being a vibrant, passionate, and fully self-expressed human being and therefore, essential to being a truly successful entrepreneur. After all, we start our businesses not only to earn a great living, but to make a difference in the world. And that can only happen when we are operating at our full potential. A healthy sex life feeds us on an emotional, physical and psychological level and simply leaves us more vibrant and engaged in our businesses and lives.”
Perhaps it’s the Whore/Madonna thing but “good” mothers don’t talk about themselves as sexual beings. For many women once they have children, being a mother becomes their paramount role. The woman who enjoyed sex disappears and is replaced by a dutiful mother who channels all of her energies into her children. Sex is no longer about her pleasure or the opportunity to create a sacred union with her man—it’s reduced to being another unwanted obligation.
Why do so many mothers believe that reveling in their sexuality is incompatible with good parenting?
If you believe that sex is all about pleasing your man, then in the midst of raising your children and building your business it’s easy for you to push his needs to the back burner. You may feel that you have the ability to be a good mother or even a good entrepreneur, but as a woman you may not feel up to par. Perhaps you’re heavier than you’d like or you’ve been lax with your personal grooming. You don’t feel sexy so you’re anxious about getting undressed and making love with your man. Although you can use sex to connect with your partner, essentially sex is an expression of your own life force. If women represent love on earth, then it stands to reason that if you deny your sexuality you’re also denying the desires of your soul.
Generally, working mothers who are stressed out by too many demands, too little support and too little “me-time” are not that interested in sex. However, you can’t have a great life if you’re ignoring your sexual yearnings. Are you weakening your marital/relationship bond by not connecting with your partner on a regular basis? Do you have the relaxed state of mind that you need to nurture your children and to run your business? A sexually fulfilled woman is happier and brings that joyful spirit to her parenting, relationship and work.
7 Ways Working Mothers Can Get Their Sexy Back
1. Buy New Lingerie. The feel of good quality silk or satin on your body will remind you that you are a sexual being.
2. Exercise. Moving your body at least 30 minutes a day will get your blood pumping and your juices flowing. Most important your body imagewill improve as your shed unwanted pounds. Don’t have access to a gym? Why not try a pilates, yoga or belly dancing DVD?
3. Get a new hairstyle. A new hairstyle can make you feel fresh and young. Look at magazines and bring your hairdresser pictures of hair do’s that you like. Opt for a hairstyle that’s both fashionable and functional.
4. Have a spa day. Can’t afford a real spa, then carve out a few hours at home to luxuriate in the bath and to give yourself a facial, manicure and pedicure.
5. Go on a trip with your significant other, without the kids. A romantic trip, even if it’s only an overnight hotel will give you the privacy and freedom to rekindle your sexual flame.
6. Get a new scent. The power of scent is greater than you think. Test some perfumes at your local department store. See what scent make you feel sexy.
7. Spruce Up Your Bedroom. Your bedroom should be a retreat for romance and for rest. Clear out the clutter (including kids toys). Buy some new bedding and add touches like scented candles and plants.
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Why Self-Care is Important for Working Mothers
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Great advice. Before you can be sexy, you have to think sexy. Sex starts in the mind.
Sarah–Thanks for taking the time to comment. I agree…sexy is a mental state.
Yvonne,
Too true!! Spreading this message is my passion! It is part of why I started my business. Empowering women to be comfortable and confident with their sexuality is what I do everyday. Thanks for bringing light to this issue.
Here are a few other ways to get your sexy back:
-Read a great smutty romance novel (remember for women sex starts in our brains hours before the actual event)
-Add a new “Toy” to your relationship (new almost always = exciting)
-Try some self love (The more orgasms a woman’s body has the more it wants)
Thanks again Yvonne! Great post!
sex is essentially important, its correct to have good sex for successful life
Rachel: Thanks for the additional tips to help working moms get their sexy back….in private
Imran–Thanks for weighing in on the post.
Very interesting article! I love the part about if you believe sex is all about pleasing your man, then it’s easy to push his needs to the back burner. I had never thought about it quite like this before.
Paula: Thanks much. I think that for women to really enjoy sex they have to believe that it’s an activity for their own enjoyment….not just a tool to placate or manipulate their man.