by admin on January 29, 2010
Who do you get your advice from?
Are you getting relationship advice from a friend who can’t maintain a relationship longer than 90 days?
Are you getting parenting advice from someone who’s kids seem destined to be guests on Dr. Phil?
Are you getting advice about running your business from someone who’s been an employee all of his life?
Are you getting advice about your self-development from someone who’s literally not changed any part of her life (including her hairstyle) since college?
Your friends and relatives mean well but very often their (unsolicited) advice is irrelevant to your life goals, aspirations or values—for you, your family or your business. When you decide to go it your own way, frequently your friends and relatives will perceive your decision as an insult, as if moving in lockstep is analogous to love.
When you think for yourself some of your friends and relatives will see it as you rejecting their life goals, aspirations or values. You did and that’s ok. You can’t live your own truths by meekly adopting actions and standards that don’t correspond to your own ideals and principles. Your friends and relatives probably won’t see it that way. Learn to how to listen, not judge and then do what’s best for you.
So who should advise you?
People who have a track record of personal and career success, however you define it for yourself, your family and your business.
People who’s ideas and beliefs resonate with your or at least intrigue you.
People who, upon request, are generous about sharing their ideas, facts and opinions, but are still cool with you if you choose not to accept them.
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by admin on January 27, 2010
Do you know what your money set point is? It’s the number in our unconscious mind about how much you can earn in a given period. So you may be comfortable earning $60,000 or $5,000 per month. However any number beyond that figure will probably make you uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter if you’re an entrepreneur or a salaried employee. It’s likely that since your money set point is set at $60,000, even if you were presented with a legitimate opportunity to make more, say $600,000 a year or $50,000 a month you’d sabotage it.
It’s true. A gal making $60,000 a year doesn’t usually think that she has the skills, talents, experience or knowledge to make $600,000. The fear that I’m not enough (I don’t know enough) will cause some people to pass on the opportunity entirely. Others will take it on and simply bungle it. The self-saboteur will bungle it by not being secure enough to ask for the help and resources she needed to successfully complete the project. Another group may perform brilliantly, get the $600,000 and then lose it all. How many million dollar lottery winners have lost all of their winnings within a few years.
Stuart Wilde, author of The Trick to Money is Having Some says: ” The key to success is to raise your own energy; when you do, people will naturally be attracted to you. And when they show uo, bill ‘em.”
Most people just don’t have the mindset needed to create and retain large amounts of money. Nor do they have the internal capacity to deal with the increased challenges that accompany increased money and success. So how does one go about increasing her money set point?
First you have to determine your current money set point? Are you programmed to earn $20,000-$30,000 a year? 40,000-$50,000 a year? $75,000-$100,000 a year; $150,000-$200,000 a year or $250,000 a year or more. If you’re not sure where you stand just look at your individual W-2 forms for the last several years. What’s in your bank account? In your investment portfolio? What is your net worth.
Second: Study yourself. It’s an old axiom, “Your income can only increase to the extent that you do.” Start being more aware about your thoughts, especially your fears, beliefs and habits surrounding money. Ask yourself: Do you truly believe that you deserve to have a financially lucrative business? Do you truly believe that you have skills, talents and knowledge that command high-end fees? Do you truly believe that you have a real shot at living a financially abundant life.
If you answered no to any of these questions, then you have have stopped your cashflow. Blaming outside forces may be soothing, but it won’t change your circunstances. Even in a bad economy, there are people making money—and that’s always been the case.
Some people believe that they have something to offer the marketplace. So the determined folks do whatever it takes to pursue their dreams. They go on American Idol (Carrie Underwood) , or they’ll start a blog (Perez Hilton) or they’ll play in the NBA despite being 5′ 3″ (Tyrone ”Mugssy” Bogues). The rest of us—the folks too afraid to pursue our dreams sit at home and grouse about mediocre talents being overpaid.
There are no magic bullets, you have to work on eliminating your limiting beliefs about yourself and about money. Moreover, you have to replace those old beliefs with new ones. Without changing your mind game, all of the marketing sytems and virtual assistants will not help you to substantially improve your finances.
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