Many women have VERY flexible standards which leads to them date subpar men and to stay in subpar jobs. Your standards are no more than the criteria that you use to determine whether a person or a situation fits into your desired life. Women often claim that they want to make more money or they want better relationships, yet they refuse to terminate the subpar.
Subpar is defined as “Not measuring up to traditional standards of performance, value, or production.” Simply replace the word “traditional” with “my” and you have a personalized term.
Low Standards Lead to Your Needs Not Being Met.
When your standards are low you accept virtually everything and everybody into your realm. You don’t assess whether or not a job, or a relationship is actually good for you—you’re just glad that it’s there. It’s like the woman who claims that she want to be in a monogamous relationship with a financially stable man that will lead to marriage. This same woman however is dating married men, men who are unemployed and/or men who are openly disdainful of commitment. In the course of these subpar relationships none of her relationship needs or wants are being met.
The woman does want a more fulfilling relationship but she consistently settles for far less. She could doubt her ability to be in a successful relationship with a monogamous, marriage-minded man. This woman may also be unwilling to make the emotional and lifestyle changes that it would take to attract the man she desires. Standards are important for creating the relationship that you want as well as the income that you desire.
What is your income standard?
Unsure? Your income standard should be the amount of money that you need to earn to comfortably meet your monthly expenses AND save for the future. After you’ve figured out your income standard, compare it to your current salary. How big is the gap between your income standard and your actual pay? After you’ve done the math, it’s time to examine WHY you are willingly accepting less money than you need and desire?
There are host of WHY’s women frequently give for underearning, including:
The economy is bad
I work for a small company
My field doesn’t pay high salaries
I don’t have the training, degree, license…necessary to earn more money
The reality is:
There are always other companies to work for
You can leave a low-paying profession
In the 21st century, continuing education isn’t optional—it’s a necessity for high income professionals
2) They don’t want to commit to the changes that are necessary to increase your income. If you really don’t want to put in the effort to: change your money mindset; look for a higher paying job; get additional training; move to an area with more employment options; get coaching) you’ll just settle for a life of financial struggle.
Both reasons center on fear…fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection and fear or rejection/criticism….fear.
Awareness always precedes change.
Starting with your income, be honest with yourself about why you’re willing to go to work everyday, yet struggle financially. Are you fearful that you don’t have the ability to do earn more money or are your fearful about the life changes that would be necessary for you earn a higher income.
Once you set standards for your income and more forward to adhere to them, you’ll likely feel compelled to cut loose the other subpar aspects of your life.
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