by admin on July 11, 2010
My intention as an author, speaker and self-sufficiency coach is to help women to live fuller lives. The underlying philosophy of my work is that a woman needs financial independence in order for her to be able to exercise autonomy over her life and affairs. To put it bluntly: If someone else is footing your bills, then it’s them, not you who’s calling the shots.
In my mission to empower women I’ve had the pleasure of participating in the BnB Summer Diva Series Creating the Life & Love You Want on BlogTalk radio, hosted by author Michelle Grant . The show airs every other Wednesday at 9pm EST. Michelle, fellow panelist, attorney and blogger, Carolyn Edgar and I use our airtime to talk about how people can improve their finances, careers, relationships and overall lives.
In My Effort to Pay It Forward…..
I’m offering the listeners of the BNB Summer Diva Series, an opportunity to WIN a Single Session Private Money/Mindset Coaching with me (a $165.00 value). There will be at least one winner for each show.
What You Can Expect from a Money/Mindset Coaching Session: In this 1 hour, concentrated session I’ll work with you to resolve a specific financial issue in your life. This is an intense and powerful coaching experience that will reveal what’s holding you back and identify your next steps.
To be Eligible To Win:
- You must be at least 21 years old and female.
- Email me a paragraph that discusses that problem that you want help with and what you hope to gain from a Private Money/Mindset Coaching session with me. Please be sure to include your full name, age and contact information. I will announce the winner(s) for that week on the BNB Summer Series. You’ll have to DM or email me that evening to claim your coaching session. My email address is Yvonne@Sophisticatedwomanandmama.com
- If your on Twitter, then Re-Tweet 5 of your friends about the BnB Diva Summer Series w/a link to http://sophisticatedwomanandmama.com
Since everyone can’t win a coaching session….
You may want to consider purchasing my 3 part audio course, How To Achieve Financial Freedom From Where You Are Now! For only $25.00 you’ll receive approximately three hours of information that will help you address your money obstacles and plan a strategy that put you on a new financial path.
Madonna is a master at reinventing herself. Throughout her 20+ year career she’s had several different personas, including: NYC club denizen; The Material Girl; Ms. Erotica, British Madge, Madonna the humanitarian and now Madonna, fashion designer . These incarnations represent the changes in her life as she matures and exposes herself to new people and to new ideas. She’s also a singer, so if she happens to debut a new hair color, a new religion or a new accent prior to a new album, I’m not mad at her. Like her or hate her you can’t say that Madonna’s predictable and stale. Average Janes could learn a few lessons from Madonna on personal evolution. Ask yourself, is you life moving forward or is it standing still?
Consistency isn’t a virtue whether you’re a pop singer or a web designer—it’s the kiss of death. Many women cling to the past because it’s known—it’s safe. They cling to hairstyles that they adopted in high school. They cling to clothes that they’ll never wear again. They cling to relationships that are no longer satisfying. They cling to jobs that provide a steady, if inadequate paycheck. Even worse– they cling to ideas about who they are that no longer serve them.
To reinvent yourself is an admission that your wants, needs and desires have changed through maturity and/or experience.
So why do women stick to outdated versions of themselves? Because they’re afraid to envision a “new me”. It’s easier to do what you know, rather than branch out into uncharted terrritory. They’re comfortable in the sameness. They’re scared of the prospect of having to start over in a new job, relationship, city, fill in the blank.
Reinvention requires a sense of personal autonomy. You need to base your decisions on your own life; the life that you want to lead. You shouldn’t make choices based on other people’s lives or on what other people think your life should be. Some people will not like the new you—the hair, the clothes, the attitude or the higher paying gig (and they’ll let you know it).
Reinvention requires risk. Your reinvention could be a colossal flop, particularly if it doesn’t improve the quality of your life or make you feel better about yourself.
The alternative is to resist change and hope that everything and everyone in your life also remains static.
Self- Reinvention is important because you can’t stave off change by denying it. In the words of motivational speaker Les Brown , “Either you run your life or life runs over you.” Self-reinvention allows you to be the key decision-maker in your emotional, spiritual and financial evolution. If you don’t embrace change you’re inviting other people and circumstances to define you. Stubbornly holding on “what used to be” or “who you used to be” won’t miraculous transform it into present tense.
Today, think about where in your life are you resisting change?
·Your personal appearance? (hair, make-up, wardrobe)
·Your job?
·Your marriage or other personal relationships?
·Your home decor?
Then ask yourself why have you been unwilling to make changes.
What is your underlying fear?
What support do I need to step into the next phase of my life?
P.S. I’d love you to help your audience, women’s organization or your group of friends become financially authentic. Here’s how you can hire me to speak at your event.
